realizing your detachment and mania has nothing to do with science or experience but a passionate yearning for something yet discovered
What can you do if confronted by an attacker? Michelle Ward speaks with Katie Couric about how to avoid and minimize risk.
Idk about playing dead but self defense should be a class in every school!
If you wouldn’t kick a child’s wheel chair into traffic, if you wouldn’t make fun of a deaf person’s voice or a gawk at someone’s scars, you shouldn’t bully someone with any type of disorder, disease, or disproportion. The internet has brought to my attention a saddening cultural acceptance of “s*** shaming”; there are many who are above this primitive ignorance, but the amount and severity of bullying is daunting.
Whether one wishes to be in a monogamous relationship or consensually hook up with other singles is that individual’s choice. Condoms are key, not because that person is “unclean”, but because no one is immune to disease. All it takes is one time of unprotected sex to join the club of positives. It’s a bigger club than you may think and there’s some seriously unexpected members- survivors, kind and endearing souls. It is possible to be positive and have no symptoms- in fact, that is the case in my life 90% of the time.
It always hit my ear wrong when I would hear derogatory comments about a peer’s status (sexual health), especially when they were basing these ill-intended jokes on nothing more than petty gossip. An std is not a death sentence; the stigma, however, is a constant test. I don’t think there’s a common or accurate understanding of what a positive-status entails. The world doesn’t stop spinning. It’s not a war zone down there. Everything works just as well as it did before, other than fleeting relapses- which can range from never to infrequent, depending on personal care.
There’s this horrible misunderstanding that it’s okay to “out” a person’s positive status insensitively and publicly. I am speaking generally. It is no one’s business but with whom that person chooses to have relations. Berating someone for adapting to survive this change is an abuse and ignorant. Before you call them gross, reevaluate your stance- you don’t know their life like you think you do. You are parroting mindless insults based on ignorance and fear (isn’t that the same basis of a bunch of bad groups in history? You don’t know the hell they face in a world so obsessed with appearances and a culture that wants transparency in every facet of life.
Maybe you should ask them what it’s really like instead of jumping to conclusions. I’ll admit- the sex education in schools probably fuels already combative and naive teen years- where it begins. Ask them how they have had to adapt- what they’ve sacrificed- for your wellbeing, for their family and friends’ protection. Ask them where they draw the strength and will to survive in the face of a stigma that would egg anyone on to give up, often on a daily basis. I wouldn’t be surprised if you gained a whole new perspective, respect, even inspiration and encouragement through your own life. There are people all over the world who are positive and have loving families, healthy relationships, rewarding careers, and there’s plenty more who are still working through the idea of this being within their grasp. It is. Noone should ever be bullied into ending their life, especially when what they are being hurt for was not their fault. Please share this if you care. And if you’re too scared, just know I love you for reading this much and I hope you remember you (and whoever you know who’s positive) are beyond worth saving. Stay strong.
“Do not be deceived: ‘Evil company corrupts good habits.’ ” (1 Corinthians 15:33, NKJV)
Sometimes, in order to embrace the destiny God has in store, you have to be willing to make some changes in your life. You have to be willing to examine where you are and what you need to move forward. This may mean that you need to change some friends that you’re spending time with. Maybe they were fine for a season in your life, but now you’ve outgrown them. This is a new season, and in order for you to rise higher, you have to break away from relationships that are limiting you. You have to develop some new relationships with people who are going to pull you up and inspire you to rise higher.
And, this doesn’t just mean separating yourself from people who are holding you back spiritually. I’ve found that if you’re the smartest one in your group, your group is too small. Find people who will challenge you to stretch to the next level and become everything God’s created you to be. Remember, he who walks with the wise becomes wise. Choose your friends wisely and don’t be deceived. Surround yourself with people who will cause you to rise higher so you can live in the destiny God has in store for you!
A Prayer for Today
Father God, thank You for Your grace and mercy. Thank You for the good plan You have for my life. Help me choose my friends and companions wisely so that I can continue to move forward in the destiny You have for me in Jesus’ name. Amen.